The Power Within

What is that power?
It is the power of self-discipline.

Why do i need such a power?
You will be able to do what you want and when you want to do. That’s liberation.

Where should i go to get it?
It’s just within.

How can i get it?
Constant practice.

What should i practice?
Doing what is right.

What is right for me?
There are some universal things – generally right for everyone. I have listed some of them below. For everyone, there may be some specific things which are right for them – and only you can answer those for yourself.

What is the general list?
First and the foremost of all, let us recognize that we are perfect to the extent possible at any given moment, and also not perfect to the extent it was not possible. In other words, as the saying goes, Nobody is perfect. We all have something good within us and something not so good within us – and at different times of our lives, we experience ourselves differently – and perceive same things differently.

So…

Even to this list there are exceptions possible for every item here – for everyone is different and everyone’s dose of the rightness and wrongness is also different.

  • Taking care of the body and being hygienic and healthy – this is where we live for the whole of our life – to experience life (which happens within us) we have to respect the body we live in. It’s our first tool.
    • breathe well and deeply
    • eat well and more live foods
    • sleep well and restfully – it translates to living peacefully
    • exercise well and being fit
    • avoid shallow breathing, smoking, etc.
    • avoid poisoning the body with unnecessary items – drugs, too much alcohol, and other chemical substances.
    • avoid bad habits of food and drink
    • avoid excess or less rest
    • avoid over exercising or bodily laziness
  • Taking care of emotional and mental health – it’s the next tool and it’s within us.
    • letting go harmful / hurt oriented emotions – anger, jealousy, irritability, greed, etc… of similar kind – it frees up your within to bring forth positive possibilities
    • letting go of pain in painful memories – it makes the discarded pain within as the fertilizer for your learning and growth as a better person
    • letting go of the expectations of how the world / people around you should interact / behave with you – it makes you self-reliant and more acceptable around as your less demanding from within
    • going forward to help people around you to the extent possible (and in some cases comfortable) – it brings forth happiness and joy from within
    • Have a good sense of humor – laugh more and more than you frown – and, beware, don’t let someone’s downfall or limitation be the source of your laughter!
  • Think (you are generating thoughts from within) constructive and clean thoughts:
    • think about possibilities and solutions more than the problems
    • think about healing more than the illness
    • think about success more than the failure
    • think about inclusion more than exclusion
    • think about life more than death
  • Recognizing that you are more than just your body and mind – and there is more to discover within us about ourselves – which is more lively and making us live.
    • Be aware of your thoughts and emotions
    • Be aware of what you speak
    • Be aware of what you do
    • Even if you miss the moment of action to be aware, retrospect
    • Don’t judge yourself or come to conclusions while you try to be aware of yourself – you are trying to discover yourself
    • And, you are just aware for a certain period of time in your day – otherwise, called meditation.
  • Give positive inputs to yourself – that’s what your within will be built with.
    • talk to your mentor or your inspirational personality that you admire in your life – there may be many if you look back – be in touch with them
    • read a good book
    • listen to a good audio
    • watch a good video
    • spend time in a group of people that increase your vibe and bring forth your life and make you happy – and, some people find groups of indulgence make them happy – stay away from them – rule of thumb, we should not induce poison or cause harm to our first tool (our own body) – that’s where we live.
  • Achieve you Goals.
    • Have high goals and constantly work towards achieving them
    • Don’t underestimate yourself – and don’t overestimate either – but be sure that there are infinite possibilities for every human if you remove time and place completely.
    • Given any situation – particular time, place and circumstances – there will always be certain possibilities and certain limitations.
    • Work with your possibilities – overcome the inner limitations and go around your outer / circumstantial limitations – this is an ultimate practice in itself – to build the strength of our within.
    • Write down your goals – write them again and again, on each day and everyday
    • If you are feeling lazy to write them down one day, that is the day, you must do.

I thought of writing just a little bit – and, it looks like this page is not stopping here. So, i will take a pause and write a little more later.

This page is a reminder to everyone of us – first in the list is myself.

How do you connect within? What are your thoughts?

Anger – Calm

Age old is this emotion of aggression, defense and instinct of protection. It’s similar to courage. Anger comes out as an outburst of energy to protect yourself or your flock from danger or an attack. Battles of the world were fought with courage and aggression, much required for survival or protection of one’s own life, land, country, etc. It is a good survival mechanism, built into life on earth. It has so much power in it.

If such a powerful emotion turns on your own loved ones, as if they are attacking you and you are protecting yourself from them, it is a self-destructive emotion. It brings danger upon oneself and their own close ones.

It is painful for the one who is angry and it is equally painful or even more for the one who had suffered the wrath as a victim. I am talking about families. Spouses or parents and kids or siblings going through situations of anger.

analysis: False identification with some ideas or thoughts oneself or one’s ideals for life – and any disagreements to those thoughts would bring about a volcanic eruption – for no good. This is just a mind game. It makes one forget the good done over the years or decades by the other person – and in that moment, that forgetfulness of the whole picture and falsely identifying oneself with the idea/thought and treating the threat to the thought as threat to one’s survival and going up into rage – it is no good. It is not useful. It is not true. It is not life. It is a weakness – that one uses to show as a strength and dominating force to get things in their way! It does not work.

experience: I had suffered this as a victim during my childhood. I don’t blame anyone for it. That’s okay. And, as an adult, once in a while, i did experience anger coming from within at others – and it is not pleasant. I am getting better with practice of some techniques i have learnt and understanding the reality and reminding myself that we are here to be happy and be joyful. It’s a thing to master with consistent practice.

knowledge: I know full well, that i should not get angry. And, almost every conscious person knows it well. But, in that moment, it is difficult to remember the right action and the habitual action of anger/rage comes about as if it was the right thing to be done. Not sure how many years or decades of stored up anger is within – that’s ready to come out at the slightest of the trigger.

eye-opener: If we know what to do, and we also know a lot of things to do, and we have no practice of doing what is right, what good is that knowing? It’s rather annoying to know what to do and not being able to do.

some remedies: Bringing logical thinking at that moment to see how trivial is the issue and the possible actions towards resolving it, or, touching the heart and thinking about the good things done by the person with whom you are angry with and then talking to them instead of just puking out, or, taking a deep breath and continue to breath deeply, or, counting numbers, or taking a cold shower, or just running away from the spot to take that moment before we respond instead of reacting angrily – are some of the proven ways over a period of time for several people. It’s important, that in that moment, we could remember these and act accordingly.

some liberating thought: Anger is thinking the critical thoughts. It’s not you that is thinking angry thoughts. You are separate from your anger. It is coming out of you, but, you are not the anger. It is a separate entity from you. I get this idea from Eckhart Tolle.
You can watch that video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aqX5IFKYFWkdetachment

some more videos:

  1. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRA4C_ni7PAlive joyfully
  2. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlUI1_J8D68live happily
  3. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hdS4nP0-snkNo Anger Zone / Fasting from Anger
  4. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ra2fV9BnFLMShrimad Bhagawad Gita – Chapter 2, 62 and 63 shlokas
  5. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUzPNhDMmcYMy Favorite #####****!!!

some related articles:
1. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/anger-management.htm

I watched many videos and read articles on this subject. I have been practicing some techniques on a daily basis. They seem to help, but, more work required.

How about you? Are you all peaceful and calm? How do you deal with anger if you feel such an emotion? How do you overcome it? How do you keep calm in that devastating moment?

I have posted this to help fellow people. You can overcome it. I can see the progress. I am sure you can too, if you experience it once in a while.

Say NO to suicide

No Suicide! Please! – Choose Life! Life and Life alone! Change the way of living if it’s difficult to live.

Life is not challenging all the time. Sometimes, it is easy and sometimes, it is crazy. We experience pleasure, and sometimes pain. There come situations of fame and glory, while sometimes, we do see shame and sorry.

One needs to understand that Life is a package of experiences – importance given only to any one aspect / event of life, and thinking about it or making it the entire life – is not the way to go about it – and definitely not if the event or thought process is in the direction of losing life.

Please! Remember!!

  • You are the most important asset you have. Not the assets you accumulate. Just hold on! We can resurrect!
  • Your fame is an accumulation and shame too is. They can be removed or added with certain activities and in a certain time. It’s not impossible. Just hold on! We can devise a plan!
  • You have a family – that produced you, that came along and that you produced! Just hold on! Let’s have a word! Hi is better than a bye!!
  • You have friends – that laughed with you, cried with you, teased you and teased by you! that lent things for you when you needed, those who lied for you to cover you up when you made a mistake, those who kept the ugliest of your secrets, those who stopped you from lying, those who helped you gain a lot more than what you had thought of! Just hold on! Count them once.
  • You have donated your stuff – do you remember? Just hold on and not stop! We got to do more of it!
  • You have enemies – wait, hang on! let them be around you and not in your mind! Just hold on! We can go away from them – doing better things – they hadn’t even dreamed of! If you give up, they win – and don’t let them win by making stupid mistakes of thinking negatively about yourself.
  • Situations may tell you, people may tell you, even the closest you kept to your heart may tell you that you are lame, failure or an idiot, or even a dumb fellow! Just hold on! That’s their thought process, of course, about you! We can fix that! Haven’t you seen success movies full of failures until the climax and the climax was terrific? Update your movie list. Watch “cast away” right away!
  • A seed, at the right time and in a right environment, germinates, grows, fruits and further has the potential to create an entire forest out just itself. Even the best of the plants get bugs and live through harsh climate. They are surviving the deadliest of things happening to them and still giving us fruit! You are a human being! Think not of the thoughts of poison and death! Think of life, and life all the time! For sure, you can create a 100 children of your own before you die, if you take it up as a goal! Even if you can’t produce great work of art or of value, you can produce life – and it can take it’s own course! Just hang on! You are the seed with a potential to live eternally! We can get the right moment!
  • It may seem like the end of the world – trust me, no one cares after an year or two – do you think about our freedom fighters or even the freedom takes every day? Do you live in the history or do you live with hope of the future in the present? Don’t you let the weeds of shame, failure or any significant unpleasant experience grow beyond a few mins if not seconds. Pluck them out and plant the thoughts of life and life alone. Bring out the creative genius within you – look for those who you had helped once. talk to them and see how you can help them again!
  • If you are really all alone, talk to me! I want you alive. Don’t let the moment take you over. Let it pass. And you have a whole new life awaiting, if and only if you can win over that dying moment with life!

Please live and let live! Just listen! Judge less and make it easy for people around you!

Patience

Do we have it enough?

It’s debatable if we open it to prove whether being patient is good at all times.

In Telugu, it’s written like this:

“తన కోపమె తన శతృవు తన శాంతమె తనకు రక్ష దయ చుట్టంబౌ”

“Anger is one’s enemy,

Peace is one’s protection,

Kindness is one’s relative.”

To not to bring upon the enemy from within, or around, it requires a greater degree of self-awareness, understanding of one’s nature and self-control.

Simply put, be patient. Keep calm and cool. Carry-on your activities with less expectations to receive and more to offer.

Have patience for people to grow. Each one is different and takes their own time.

Finally, forgive. It’s therapeutic.

How to create a successful student life, pass difficult subjects, etc?

Yes, you can create it.

Thanks God! I passed my exams, and you can too.

Discover yourself! Answer these questions after some thought.

  1. What is your role as a student?
  2. Why do exams exist?
  3. What are the advantages of clearing exams?
  4. Are you willing to let go any of the advantages? Which advantage would you want to forgo?
  5. Achievement or entertainment?

Direct yourself!

  1. How many subjects/backlogs do you have?
  2. If you take the test right now, how many of them can you clear for sure?
  3. Do you know someone (a friend or a teacher) who can help you with the subjects you have difficulty with?
  4. Can you ask for their help?
  5. What are the chapters? Headings? Sub-headings? Summary?
  6. Can you answer question 5 all by yourself or with the help of a guide? Do that.
  7. What are the important topics in that subject? How many important questions in each chapter?
  8. How many model problems or examples do you have for each chapter? Have you solved them yet? If not, do it now.
  9. Can you test yourself in solving examples?
  10. Have a schedule and follow it. Do you know how to make a schedule?

A few suggestions:

  1. Give top priority to tests or mock exams
  2. Pick up a book and get the bird’s eye view in 20 mins.
  3. Sit with your guide, pick up important questions or examples in each chapter.
  4. Practice.
  5. Practice. (Intense)
  6. Practice. (More intense)
  7. Test yourself – take tests
  8. Review with your guide
  9. Repeat steps 2-8 for every subject
  10. Take a pre-final test
  11. Are you done? – it’s more likely you score more than the average for sure, even in the subjects you have difficulty with.

All the best.

Simple questionnaire for self development

  1. What do I know about myself?
  2. What do I like in my character? Why?
  3. What do I want to change in my character? Why?
  4. Who are my favourite role models or personalities? Why?
  5. Which problems of the world will I solve if I have all the super powers you want? Why solve? Which powers do I want? Why?
  6. What are my immediate targets in the next 1 year, 3years and 5years? How do I plan to accomplish them?

These questions were framed when I was conducting a seminar to a small group of students. I answered these myself sometimes. They are powerful and bring clarity when we are confused. They bring focus when distracted. They bring peace when struggling.