Age old is this emotion of aggression, defense and instinct of protection. It’s similar to courage. Anger comes out as an outburst of energy to protect yourself or your flock from danger or an attack. Battles of the world were fought with courage and aggression, much required for survival or protection of one’s own life, land, country, etc. It is a good survival mechanism, built into life on earth. It has so much power in it.
If such a powerful emotion turns on your own loved ones, as if they are attacking you and you are protecting yourself from them, it is a self-destructive emotion. It brings danger upon oneself and their own close ones.
It is painful for the one who is angry and it is equally painful or even more for the one who had suffered the wrath as a victim. I am talking about families. Spouses or parents and kids or siblings going through situations of anger.
analysis: False identification with some ideas or thoughts oneself or one’s ideals for life – and any disagreements to those thoughts would bring about a volcanic eruption – for no good. This is just a mind game. It makes one forget the good done over the years or decades by the other person – and in that moment, that forgetfulness of the whole picture and falsely identifying oneself with the idea/thought and treating the threat to the thought as threat to one’s survival and going up into rage – it is no good. It is not useful. It is not true. It is not life. It is a weakness – that one uses to show as a strength and dominating force to get things in their way! It does not work.
experience: I had suffered this as a victim during my childhood. I don’t blame anyone for it. That’s okay. And, as an adult, once in a while, i did experience anger coming from within at others – and it is not pleasant. I am getting better with practice of some techniques i have learnt and understanding the reality and reminding myself that we are here to be happy and be joyful. It’s a thing to master with consistent practice.
knowledge: I know full well, that i should not get angry. And, almost every conscious person knows it well. But, in that moment, it is difficult to remember the right action and the habitual action of anger/rage comes about as if it was the right thing to be done. Not sure how many years or decades of stored up anger is within – that’s ready to come out at the slightest of the trigger.
eye-opener: If we know what to do, and we also know a lot of things to do, and we have no practice of doing what is right, what good is that knowing? It’s rather annoying to know what to do and not being able to do.
some remedies: Bringing logical thinking at that moment to see how trivial is the issue and the possible actions towards resolving it, or, touching the heart and thinking about the good things done by the person with whom you are angry with and then talking to them instead of just puking out, or, taking a deep breath and continue to breath deeply, or, counting numbers, or taking a cold shower, or just running away from the spot to take that moment before we respond instead of reacting angrily – are some of the proven ways over a period of time for several people. It’s important, that in that moment, we could remember these and act accordingly.
some liberating thought: Anger is thinking the critical thoughts. It’s not you that is thinking angry thoughts. You are separate from your anger. It is coming out of you, but, you are not the anger. It is a separate entity from you. I get this idea from Eckhart Tolle.
You can watch that video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aqX5IFKYFWk – detachment
some more videos:
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRA4C_ni7PA – live joyfully
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlUI1_J8D68 – live happily
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hdS4nP0-snk – No Anger Zone / Fasting from Anger
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ra2fV9BnFLM – Shrimad Bhagawad Gita – Chapter 2, 62 and 63 shlokas
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUzPNhDMmcY – My Favorite #####****!!!
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I watched many videos and read articles on this subject. I have been practicing some techniques on a daily basis. They seem to help, but, more work required.
How about you? Are you all peaceful and calm? How do you deal with anger if you feel such an emotion? How do you overcome it? How do you keep calm in that devastating moment?
I have posted this to help fellow people. You can overcome it. I can see the progress. I am sure you can too, if you experience it once in a while.